Become the hero in your life's story - the man you want to be in life, love and work.
If your journey through life isn't turning out the way you planned it... you are in the right place. I help guide men on their own hero's journey.
Identify the limiting beliefs that are holding you back
Work on a strategy and a plan to achieve your new goals
Walk your own hero's journey to live a meaningful life of your dreams
Are you playing the role of the victim or villain in your own hero's journey?
See if any of these fit for you and here's a clue, you may not be thinking them about yourself, but someone may have said this to you.
- You avoid conflict because you would rather keep steady ship
- You often look for the approval of others, your wife, girlfriend or workmates
- You aren't too great at expressing your feelings
- You have said to yourself, 'I am not going to be like my father'
- You are great at giving, super generous, but don't often get what you want in return
- You like to help people (most often women)
- You go to great lengths to hide your flaws
- You are a bit of a martyr, putting other peoples needs ahead of your own
- Your closest relationships aren't working out the way you thought they would
If any of the above feels familiar - you are probably what's known as a Nice Guy
My work is informed by Dr Robert Glover's book No More Mr Nice Guy and in it he describes the flawed beliefs that underpin how a Nice Guy operates.
I'm a good bloke
If I am a good guy, everyone will love me and like me (and people I desire will desire me).
I am super helpful
If I meet other people's needs without them having to ask, they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
I do it the right way
If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.
It just never works out right though does it? You believe you are doing the right thing but you keep getting let down by significant others. You are thinking that you give so much, how come you don't get it back in return? But here's the truth, you have probably been told you are sometimes passive-aggressive (ouch huh). The real truth is you avoid conflict and probably withdraw when you are hurt. You may be feeling trapped in your relationship and might be hiding things, so people don't see your flaws.
I understand the pain in this - I am a recovering Nice Guy too!
Want to find out how deep you are in this Nice Guy business? Take the quiz below.
Recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome is not about becoming a better man or getting rid of anything. Recovery is about becoming more “you.”
Dr. Robert Glover, No More Mr. Nice Guy
Book a free strategy sessions with The Coach
starting your nice guy recovery journey
Tailored coaching designed uniquely for you. Working over a series of 12 sessions, we take a deep dive into the challenges you are working with and map out a weekly plan to get the results you are looking for. I specialise in removing the limiting beliefs you may hold and transforming your world view.
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Online men's group
One of the most important ways for Nice Guy's to recover is spending time with other authentic men. Men who are able to hold accountability, share vulnerability and be real.
Our fortnightly virtual men's group is also supported by a private chat group and group coaching sessions.
Cost only $65/month. Click on the button for more information.
High impact - transformative weekend workshop
Our weekend workshops create a rapid, deep immersion into a man's psyche and the shadows that drive us. Working together we travel a hero's journey into the workings of the authentic masculine - showing up in the world as the man you want to be and what your partner is crying out for.
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Starting your Nice Guy recovery is a 3-step process - your hero's journey
If you are ready to overcome your Nice Guy behaviors then lets get started. This is a journey into you authentic self. Authentic's root word is author - that's you - in charge of your quest.
- VICTIM - Leave your known world and all the thing that aren't serving you and with courage jump into the unknown. Start by arranging a free strategy session with me.
- 2CREATOR - Schedule the 12 weekly sessions at a mutually agreeable time and start your journey to a better life, there will be dragons on the way! Ill be your guide and support you to get up when need it.
- HERO - Return to the world with all the gifts of who you are. Put into action your life's mission. Join one of our men's groups for fortnightly support with other recovering Nice Guy's and live an authentic life.
You have a couple of choices now...
You can continue to live the way you have been living. Aware you aren't living the life you dreamt about, but perhaps not feeling the pain enough to change. Or you could make the first steps today in finding your own authentic integrated masculine and designing the life you always imagined you could have. It starts with a phone call... talk to you soon.