Hi, I'm Coach Alister

A coach on a course I went to 15 years ago, who didn't know me at all, called me straight up on my sh*t, she said I can tell you manipulate people for what you want. I was shocked. How dare she say that. I worked really hard most of my life to build a persona of a Nice Guy that would hide those parts I least wanted people to see in me. But she spotted me, and it took me another year to own it for myself. When I was 40 I started to turn my troubled existence around. My ruminating brain had spent so long lamenting the decisions I had made, some with a lot of toxic shame, that's the nasty self talk that usually spirals into self hatred. No one ever saw that side of me much however, I was so adapt at hiding it. 

I got divorced, met my new partner and have travelled a journey that has tested me in every way to this day. I believe that relationships are about growing, not happiness. I am grateful for me wife who has stuck with me through some of the worst Nice Guy traits. I can tick yes on most of the items in the quiz.

I have three awesome children, two of them young adults and 1 under 10. They have been my greatest teachers. 

I am a serial entrepreneur. Run more businesses than I can remember, some successful, others total failures. I learnt most from those ones. Now, I am dedicated to being in service and helping others find their truth and life's purpose. This is my new hero's journey, to spend more time as the guide, this is where I feel life is most fulfilling for me. I really wish I had found the support I needed along the way, things might have turned out a bit easier! I look forward to listening to your story.

A few more things about me...